How to avoid becoming Bridezilla

Congratulation, you’re engaged! So, let’s make sure that you still have friends and family who love you by the end of this wedding with some tips on how to avoid turning into Bridezilla…

Keep costs manageable

Yes weddings are expensive because, believe it or not, it costs a shit ton of money to feed and entertain 150 people for the best part of 8 hours – but don’t get too wrapped up in how much the wedding is costing you that you forget the amount of cash that everyone else is dishing out. Anyone who has been a bridesmaid before will be familiar with the absolute fuckload of expenses that come with the dishonour, so make sure you remember remember a few things:

• If you want your bridal party to look a certain way on the day, it’s only fair that you pay for it. Although, I am talking dresses and makeup, not cosmetic surgery.
• Whether it’s a week in Marbella or a girl’s night in your home town; whatever your bridesmaids organise for your hen do, you should be happy. After all, it’s about who you’re with, not where you are – and not everyone will have the spare funds to take you somewhere exotic, no matter how much they might want to.
• If your wedding is abroad or anywhere that requires travel and hotel costs, be aware that asking someone to be in your bridal party is also asking them to spend a small fortune – in some cases you may need to help out if you expect them to be involved.

Think about your bridesmaids outfits

I know you might have a really specific vision of how you want your wedding photos to look, but be aware that not every one of your MVPs is going to fit into that box. Think about the shapes and sizes of each of your bridesmaids, and try not to force anything on them that they might feel too self conscious or uncomfortable in.

Oh, and this absolutely goes without saying but I’m going to say it anyway; don’t you dare ask any of your bridesmaids to lose weight for your big day. If they want to, that’s fine – but that’s not your decision to make.  

Listen Bridezilla, It’s his wedding too

It’s easy to get caught up in fairytale vision you might have had since you were a little girl, but make sure you listen to your husband-to-be when it comes to what he wants for the wedding too. I know the ‘bride card’ trumps all, but you want the poor lad to actually want to be there – don’t you?

Remember there’s a world outside of your wedding

There’s no doubt that planning a wedding can take some serious blood, sweat and tears – so you’d be forgiven for spending most of your waking minutes thinking about it… but don’t forget that there’s a whole world outside of your big day. There’s nothing more smug and boring than a newly engaged bird who can’t talk about anything but her wedding, so make sure you don’t get caught up in the melodrama and keep up with your mates’ lives!

And finally… Bridezilla always say thanks

There’s absolutely nothing worse than an ignorant bitch; I know it’s your big day, but stay humble. If people are putting themselves out for you then make sure you show some gratitude!