Paid Companionship: Why women hire me for love

We spoke to a male escort, (who would prefer to remain anonymous) about paid companionship and what the job really entails.

Her tears drip down my suit, because her husband is “too busy” on business trips and can’t hold a conversation without mentioning the words “profit” or “spreadsheet”. 

He’s there, but he’s not present.

For a few hours most Friday evenings, she enters a world where she is the main focus. 

Most of my clients turn up in luxury cars and lead reputable brands. Some don’t have time to find love and companionship – as one client stated, “My success seems to intimidate men, acting as a sort of repellent”. 

My dad is a Pentecostal pastor. My Sundays as a teenager were spent playing the church keyboard, during praise and worship. 

I decided to become a male escort for the money in the beginning. As a new graduate, I dreamed of travelling the world, getting a mortgage and driving a Range Rover. I couldn’t do that on £15 an hour. 

I make £120 an hour as an escort, on occasion my clients buy me expensive gifts, which I resell or give me tips in the form of fat envelopes. 

The first thing that attracted me was the money, but something else makes me stay. 

I don’t have sex with my clients. They pay for something more profound than that – companionship. 

Over time, I build a strong bond with them. They show me pictures of their kids, how well they are doing in school, and the latest disagreement or argument they’ve had with their boyfriends/husbands.

One client, even FaceTime’s her boyfriend while we are together, and he is aware that she seeks paid companionship. 

He plays for a top team in the Premier League and frequently travels. 

They are very open with each other and he is fully aware that nothing sexual occurs. 

Sometimes women hire me for reasons other than companionship. For instance, I had one 22-year-old girl who had just gotten out of a long-term relationship. 

She booked me to be her date for a wedding, knowing that her ex-boyfriend would be there. 

I felt uneasy for her ex because I imagined what it would feel like for someone you loved to ‘move on’ so quickly. 

I had one lady who required paid companionship because she wanted to “ease back in” to the dating world. She tried speed dating, clubs, etc., and just felt like all men wanted was sex. 

She misses the feeling of taking it slow with someone and getting to know them on a deeply emotional level. 

A friend once asked, “Why would a woman pay you just to chat?” 

We live in a world of instant gratification. Most men try to reach third base as quickly as possible. 

Many men seem to love talking about themselves and their accomplishments – with an escort, the client’s needs become the center of attention. 

I am interested in finding out more about them, which helps me lead the conversation, plan the places we go and the activities end up doing. 

Over the past 3 years, I have been an escort with Gentlemen4hire, offering women of all walks of life paid companionship. I have seen a growing demand for this type of service and often I decline jobs because I need time to rest. 

Most people think that it’s only older or married women who engage in this type of service, but I see models and celebrities as well. 

Why? Because, they would rather pay for an experience they control. 

Plus, when the session is over, it’s done. They know that I won’t call them 3 times a day and send multiple texts. 

Their need for companionship doesn’t get in the way of their busy lives either. 

What I do might seem easy. Who wouldn’t want to get paid for simply talking to people, going to amazing events and getting expensive gifts? 

This type of work requires a set of traits, which a small percentage of men possess. Here are a few of them: 

– Polite 

– Well presented 

– Courteous 

– Empathetic 

– Good Conversationalist

– Good Listener 

– Being On Time

To me, these are fairly simple skills, but judging by what clients have told me, a small percentage of men have these simple skill sets. 

And, you need to be able to be her dream date no matter what is going on in your private life. 

My girlfriend recently became a platonic escort as well, and I think it has strengthened our relationship. 

We can draw a line between work and home life. Plus, we have more money to spend on exotic trips and planning our lives together. 

We all want to feel seen, honoured and feel connected to another human, it’s now more acceptable to pay for it.

Conclusion

There’s no doubt I’ve grown greatly as a person during my time as an escort. I’ve learnt how to be much more empathetic and non-judgemental to people. Most of my clients really open up to me and I’ve learnt how to make people comfortable, enable them to tell me their innermost thoughts and worries.

I also like to think I’m much less shallow now, before working as an escort I wouldn’t really put that much effort in getting to know women that I wasn’t attracted to but now I realise that there’s so many interesting people out there and being attractive certainly doesn’t mean someone will be good conversation. Some of the most fun clients I have are middle aged women that wouldn’t be classed as being attractive.

The only negatives of this line of work are that on a few occasions friends have found out and been disapproving. Also, for most people it’ll be pretty much impossible to have a girlfriend as they just won’t accept you having a job like this, plus even if they did, the reality is most of my work is in the evenings which leaves me very little time for a relationship.

So overall it’s been a hugely positive experience, I’d recommend it to anyone and I can honestly say I’ve had some of the best experiences of my life doing escorting.