If it wasn’t bad enough that you’ve literally *just* spent Christmas dodging questions from your family about why you’re not married up, and suddenly you can’t move for red hearts, people talking about their loved-up plans. And even though you know Valentine’s day is ‘just another day’; a money-maker created by Hallmark to sell merch – being single on Valentine’s day, and it might feel a bit sh*t.
It’s not all doom and gloom though; you don’t have to shave your legs, or spend an hour choosing something to watch on Netflix only for one of you to fall asleep 10 minutes in. Turns out, being single on Valentine’s Day can actually be a blessing.
But there are some things you need to keep in mind to make sure you get through the day in a calm, collected and crank-free way:
DO: TREAT YOURSELF
You know who the real love of your life is? You. And there’s absolutely no reason why you need to wait for someone else to buy you those gorgeous things you want. Whether it’s a bunch of flowers, a relaxing spa day at home or one of the ideas below, use today to remind yourself that it’s YOU who’s going to give you the world.
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DON’T: Send yourself flowers
Whilst I absolutely encourage you to buy yourself flowers whenever you damn well please, please don’t send yourself some anaonymously for the purpose of making someone else jelous – particularly if it’s your ex. Block their socials and put that energy into something else, they’re not worth it!
DO: Practice some self love
In the same way you don’t need a partner to buy you the treats you deserve, you don’t need one to give you an orgasm either. If you’re single on Valentine’s day this year, it’s the perfect opportunity to get to know yourself a little better with the help of Satisfyer.
Whilst we’ve been fans of Satisfyer products for a while, the wellness tech brand recently launched a new ground-breaking app that takes sexual wellness to a whole new level. The new Satisfyer Connect app is a completely free interactive platform that blends intimacy with technology, to help people connect, with each other and their own bodies. With features that include ‘music vibes’, which pairs with your own music library, to pulsate your Satisfyer product, to the beat and rhythm of the music and ‘Ambient Sound’ where your partners voice transmits as vibrations. This app allows you to experience a whole new dimension of pleasure and a new way to explore. There is even a handy alarm setting, so you could have a new fun way to start each day – because morning sex doesn’t have to stop just because you’re single!
DON’T: Hook up with someone just because you’re single on Valentine’s day
Have you ever noticed that when you feel low you swipe right a lot more on Tinder? That’s because our standards and non-negotiables are often compromised when we feel vulnerable – but unfortunately, that hit of serotonin we get from the attention of someone we’re not totally into won’t last, and you’re only going to leave the date feeling worse than when you entered. Instead, use this day to have a date with yourself. Do something you’ve always wanted to do, eat something you really enjoy, but don’t share the experience with someone else just for the sake of it.
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Jen is our resident wellness and features editor here at The Daily Struggle. You will probably find her on the beach, painting her house or writing about magick and motherhood.
